The Best Way To Deal With Horrible People

                                                  The Best Way To Deal With Horrible People

        So this may seem like a no brainer but unfortunately there are people out there who let anyone walk all over them.  This is basically my guide on how to get a back bone and stand up for yourself.  I was once in your shoes, a total door mat.  In every aspect of my life, I was a push over.  It led to me being this quiet, reserved and depressed girl with no clue what her own voice sounded like.

        I let others speak for me which caused a lot of trouble for me.  I never stood up for myself when others would talk down on me or to me.  But for some reason, I would always step in when I came across someone else being bullied.  For some reason, that situation gave me courage to stand up for someone else but never myself.  I seemed to be friends with everyone but no one ever really knew me.

        I was friendly when spoken to but generally tried to avoid anyone and everyone.  It wasn't until my late 20s, that I grew a backbone myself.  It took being a single mom of 3 young children to inspire my courage.  I still have moments where I keep my mouth shut on certain things but others I just become a straight up bi**ch.  I got tired of being knocked down and finally got back up and dusted my own self off instead of waiting for someone to come rescue me.

        I think having a career in law enforcement kind of solidified the back bone to an extent.  I still have moments where I want to be left alone with my books or my YouTube.  That has more to do with being a recluse than anything.  I generally just hate being around people,  I have major anxiety when it comes to being around others.  I love my me time and the time I spend with my little demons.

        It is not easy to stand up for yourself, especially when you are so used to being knocked down.  But once you do, you will never let anyone knock you down again.  It all starts with how you perceive yourself, you have to be your own cheerleader.  Tell yourself every day that you matter and that you can do anything you put your mind to.  F**k the haters so to speak!  Be your own best friend and invest in yourself.  It really will make a world of difference in how you let people treat you.

        Do not be afraid to say no, especially if it is something that disrupts your own peace of mind.  Stand tall and proud, be happy for another day on this crappy Earth.  You make the path you are on and you chose how your story is written.  Take the pen back into your own hands and stop living in fear.  No matter the situation know that I am proud of you and rooting for you babe!

Much love xoxo